tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post891885963893540586..comments2024-02-06T19:03:53.593+05:30Comments on Street of Smiles: My Shorts Are Your Scandal? Hemuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-28095961568670544992013-08-03T19:44:20.803+05:302013-08-03T19:44:20.803+05:30Hi White,
I was frankly surprised to the see the ...Hi White, <br />I was frankly surprised to the see the response I got for this particular post. It shows how the predominant Indian mindset and may I say I'm glad there are so many of them who are different and thinking along my lines. <br />Thanks a lot for the support and encouragement. It drives me forward!<br />Cheers! Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-76499100654439292682013-08-03T15:05:37.206+05:302013-08-03T15:05:37.206+05:30A thought provoking article indeed!
There are man...A thought provoking article indeed!<br /><br />There are many thoughts rushing up my mind but I will just choose to congratulate you for writing on this topic and replying to each and every comment in a headstrong manner. I really appreciate your efforts to raise your voice for what you feel is correct. <br /><br />Looking forward for more such thrilling articles and debates.<br /><br />Cheers!Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07437219541231761680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-18563717625789885832013-07-09T17:22:28.055+05:302013-07-09T17:22:28.055+05:30Mr. Kumar... The issue is not Men Vs Women. The is...Mr. Kumar... The issue is not Men Vs Women. The issue is breach of personal liberty. I decide what I want to wear not my mother, friend, husband, brother or even the 'vague others' including you.<br />"Why woman needs to wear revealing clothes"? Their wish. Women are adults who know what is best for them. <br />But that doesnt give anyone the right to grope or assault- which is a crime.<br /><br />And please, we all know that men rape because they are sick-minded criminals, not because women provoke. If that was the case, every man would have been rapist. <br />And these crimes exist because of such mentality. Women are blamed for no fault of theirs- its ridiculous and pathetic. Healthonmovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08183253932171093272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-2156147300518079952013-07-09T13:37:31.867+05:302013-07-09T13:37:31.867+05:30Sure Mathi! I shall work on it. Thanks for giving ...Sure Mathi! I shall work on it. Thanks for giving me your feedback! :)Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-85974449938762231712013-07-09T10:14:57.358+05:302013-07-09T10:14:57.358+05:30Yes. I would suggest a light background and a dark...Yes. I would suggest a light background and a dark front colour rather than the inverse.. It is easier to read long articles in that setup.. Cheersமதிhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04418768158787886206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-83053481454922055022013-07-09T02:04:34.206+05:302013-07-09T02:04:34.206+05:30Pranati!
I agree. In most of my posts underlined...Pranati! <br /> I agree. In most of my posts underlined with such subjects, I mention people and not just men because chauvinists are not just men but a huge number of women too. I still don't understand why they are on the other side of the road. If I have underplayed the role of those 'aunties', I am sorry. They are equally responsible. <br /> <br /> This scenario isn't going to change straightaway. It is still taking its baby-steps here and will be a long time before it even grows though the change that we seem to see is pretty good. We can't wait for the society's approval for it is never going to happen anytime soon, in my opinion. Even my extended family would not comfortable with the clothes that I wear but I still wear what I want because I am comfortable in them. When revoked, I have spoken back and now, they don't tell me anything at all assuming I have an attitude. If an extended family behaves this way, it falls on the shoulders of the parents who have to bear with the blame of bad-upbringing. <br /> <br /> I must say this brings a lot of judgement on my character but I have learnt to shrug it off. Conventional people on the lines of chauvinistic character are never going to change and are going to be be scandalized if ankles are visible. Slutwalks and the like haven't changed much in the country, but they are some of the baby-steps taken though I don't know how far it had actually helped. <br /><br /> I agree with you that it is completely in our hands. We need to wear the clothes that we like and wear a devil-may-care attitude on our sleeves. Let's continue to scandalize them until they can adjust to their own issues. I guess, that is what I have been doing and most other girls that we know including you have been following.<br />This post is mainly for the message to spread. Hopefully, it should. <br /><br />Cheers! <br /><br />P.S: I didn't know you had a blog. Really great and surprised to see you here. Great going. Thanks for letting me know your views on this front. :) <br /><br />Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-51571339871707755602013-07-09T01:48:00.538+05:302013-07-09T01:48:00.538+05:30Dear Raisin,
I completely understand. I'm gl...Dear Raisin, <br /> I completely understand. I'm glad we are on the same page. It is indeed sad that the victims are further victimized especially in the case of women. Of the many posts here, issues of this sort seems to infuriate a lot of people, predominantly men. <br />Well, that way I am glad I can drive home the point that a lot of people are changing and that a chauvinistic attitude is not appreciated by a growing mass.<br />Great to see you here!<br />Cheers! Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-72227856196961812172013-07-09T01:42:44.742+05:302013-07-09T01:42:44.742+05:30Hi Brags,
I didn't completely realize I was t...Hi Brags, <br />I didn't completely realize I was talking to you here. It was only later that I opened your blog, after replying here. It's great to see you here. <br />Welcome aboard! :)Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-25178607257574612612013-07-09T00:45:14.642+05:302013-07-09T00:45:14.642+05:30Hi Hema..I empathise with you whole-heartedly on t...Hi Hema..I empathise with you whole-heartedly on this, as I am sure, a majority of Indian girls do. A girl can want or not want to wear revealing clothes, it's her personal choice really, but the pressing factor here is she should have the freedom to do so, if she feels like without half a million judgemental eyes gaping at her like she is some terrorist on loose. I think you have underplayed the role of a few members of our own gender in promoting this hypocrisy. Getting a bit personal, having stayed in Chennai for a number of years, it always pinched me more when i saw some strange, self proclaimed moralist aunty frowning at me disapprovingly , than if some guy on the stared at me. That too, for something innocuous as a capri pant..showing just 5-6 inches of my shin. All the while these same aunties would be parading around with half their tummy popping out of their sari.. THAT is not revealing I guess, but my shin sure is..<br />Coming to the men, Hema, I am afraid, I do not know if that will ever change in India.. I guess when something is a scarcity, it becomes all the more an object of fascination.. Statistics show that very few women in India who would be themselves willing to wear something revealing.. So that augurs badly for those girls, who wouldn't mind flaunting their body, once in a while. Men take it as a signal that maybe this girl is open minded and wouldn't mind indulging in a little promiscuity with them. Hence, the mating calls (read whistles, creepy stares etc). Raw animal behavior.<br /> The situation is a little ameliorated in posh areas of India, like malls and theatres where you would find many more girls dressed liberally.. A direct extension of the west, where clothing of girls is never a matter of talk. It has been mentioned before, the situation matters a lot. The problem in India is the juxtaposition of these parallel universes , the one of free,independent women and that majority one where she is still suppressed, told what to do, where to go and what to wear.<br /> A lot has been explained and questioned in the discussion you have brought up. But I am yet to find a credible answer to this perplexing dilemma that girls like us face. How long do we have to wait till we have society's approval for our freedom? Cuz let's face the truth..our society determines who we are to a great extent and we can't just be belligerent and ignore society completely. I do not want to create a ruckus about my freedom in clothing, nor do I want to be stared at by aunties and creepos anymore. What would you say, would be an easy way out? Cuz changing the status quo, as India stands today, would be a Herculean task, indeed. Maybe we should have some clothing revolution..but I doubt whether if even that would actually work.. Rememeber the Slutwalk protests of 2011..they give a similar picture to what I am suggesting..It will never work. And waiting for the mentality of majority of our Indian brothers and sisters to change, I doubt there would be development in that scene even after our time on earth passes on.<br /><br />I guess the best way ahead is to wear what you feel comfortable in, and you would certainly feel comfortable in clothes which suit a particular situation.. n if anyone has a problem with even that (like 3-4ths or sleeveless) then learn to not care. I once stared back so hard at a woman who was glaring at me, that she was forced to look away :) I guess when the number of girls following this approach increase, the situation will improve , gradually at least. And to end on an optimistic note, I guess the number of girls in at least jeans on Indian roads is improving :) Let's hope for the best, Hema :)Cheers :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02906557835186174510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-56673348799718043162013-07-09T00:40:22.556+05:302013-07-09T00:40:22.556+05:30I have kept that name for my blog but sounds weird...I have kept that name for my blog but sounds weird when people address me like that. You should actually read it in reverse. :-)<br /><br />Thanks, <br />Bragadeesh PrasannaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-79418746043232626772013-07-09T00:27:29.537+05:302013-07-09T00:27:29.537+05:30It is sickening to see such chauvinism in this day...It is sickening to see such chauvinism in this day and age. Nothing infuriates me more than the pigs who appoint themselves as the upholders of social norms, and go about forcing their views on women. India will never be a developed country as long as people continue to have this mentality. I can never be proud of my country as long as this goes on. If men can't keep their pants on, then they are scarcely men. Blaming a violated woman and saying that she brought it upon herself is absolutely ridiculous! Reading some of the comments here makes my blood boil.The Great Raisinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09652437178521785739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-72306516440660997212013-07-09T00:19:31.478+05:302013-07-09T00:19:31.478+05:30Hello Mathi,
Long time! I think I do have to chan...Hello Mathi, <br />Long time! I think I do have to change the layout. Would a plain grey backdrop be better? Do let me know for I have had some other friends saying the same. <br />Thank you and cheers to seeing you here after long! :)<br />Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-63757201039327651492013-07-09T00:16:30.832+05:302013-07-09T00:16:30.832+05:30Hello Annasarp,
True. I seem to be getting opinio...Hello Annasarp, <br />True. I seem to be getting opinions from many people at the rate of detailed answers like during examinations. I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion and that they are not to be judged, but it's difficult to see the mindsets that seem to carry on right now. <br /> I'm sure rural India is in a far worse state as compared to its urban counterparts. Victimization of women needs to stop. <br /><br /> In the centuries which we have traveled through to reach this 'educated' level, we are only adding several layers to the existing mindset of most people. It's just more polished and given gift-wrapped. <br /> I completely agree with you. We do seem to be returning to the real dark! <br />Thanks for dropping by. Please do stay connected. <br />Cheers! Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-28203695236861098972013-07-09T00:09:28.260+05:302013-07-09T00:09:28.260+05:30Oh, I didn't think of it in that angle at all....Oh, I didn't think of it in that angle at all. Thanks for bringing that possibility to my notice. I just meant to state that as an example for the happenings in the country as a whole. <br /> I hope this moral policing stops. We, the general public needs to stand against it. <br />Thanks for letting me know, Ravi. Learning perspectives again and again. Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-51187142417947469162013-07-09T00:07:29.361+05:302013-07-09T00:07:29.361+05:30Thoughtful article.. But it is a bit tough on the ...Thoughtful article.. But it is a bit tough on the eyes to read your blog.. Maybe you should think about changing the layout, backgrounds etc. and making it more read-friendlyமதிhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04418768158787886206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-11417511195664365752013-07-09T00:03:04.879+05:302013-07-09T00:03:04.879+05:30First of all, if there is going to be any code of ...First of all, if there is going to be any code of dresses it should be applicable for both the sexes and not for one gender alone. If some body stares then they should be condemned and its not the other way around. As I read in Bhavia's blog few days ago, whoever be in fault in such situations the girls are getting punished. Even worse thing is the first one to judge them is the women in the family as well as neighbourhood. I am not talking about metros, where the situation is slowly changing but in rural areas there is so much left to desire. <br /><br />And about the comments, I dont know what to say. Whenever such things come up, the stronger sex comes with stronger force to establish they are right and such and such things should not be done by girls. Pathetic. I know people who wear shortest of shorts and roam bare chested in trains thinking that they are giving the women a chance to ogle at them as if they are... Thinking about the time when women who were ruling did not care about hide their breast, and times like this, infact we are going back to dark ages.. in breakneck speedAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-19857426071723521012013-07-08T23:48:09.077+05:302013-07-08T23:48:09.077+05:30Yes, moral policing is not confined just to northe...Yes, moral policing is not confined just to northern states. It is everywhere in India, in fact around the world where freedom of expression \ right to choose out of freewill is barged. ( Others- Plz don't say assaulting someone is also a freewill :-) ).<br /><br />I think he got more aggravated cause you mentioned about the trip to North !Ravihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00920404143643313652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-81844509293188292612013-07-08T23:34:43.244+05:302013-07-08T23:34:43.244+05:30Hello Mr.Ravi,
I am in opposition to the views e...Hello Mr.Ravi, <br /> I am in opposition to the views expressed by Mr.Neeraj too. He may be from the north but I don't think this is a problem contained only within the northern states of India though it may be where the problem persists more, sometimes in a downright hypocritical way. I'm glad that more people are opening their minds and not being a moral judge though we still have a long walk left. <br /> Great to know your views here. Please do stay connected. <br />Cheers! Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-65686202141620337272013-07-08T23:24:08.128+05:302013-07-08T23:24:08.128+05:30Thank you. Thank you. Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-37440982792689531842013-07-08T23:19:39.441+05:302013-07-08T23:19:39.441+05:30PS2 is better than PS!PS2 is better than PS!VVKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17553362566919342333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-64015261493821530092013-07-08T23:10:46.403+05:302013-07-08T23:10:46.403+05:30Usually before reading any article\blog post I che...Usually before reading any article\blog post I check the comments first ( If there is one, mostly in blogpost there wont be any comments ). I did the same in ur post too, the first comment by Neeraj Kumar was such a loony with no sense of remorse against one' feeling.<br /><br />Did you ppl go to North ? Looks like Neeraj is from north !Ravihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00920404143643313652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-33188442411997354572013-07-08T23:03:56.518+05:302013-07-08T23:03:56.518+05:30Dear Mr.Dass,
The traditional and cultural values...Dear Mr.Dass, <br />The traditional and cultural values you seem to imply of India inherently in our system, still exists. Otherwise you'd see a totally different scenario here. I am an Indian by birth and am completely within the folds of Her cultural realm. But, one doesn't have to give up one's pride and individualism for the sake of a mindless society. <br /><br />Most of them seem to misunderstand this post. I don't want to run around nude on the streets. But the very premise that someone else other than me gets to decide what I wear (something as simple as a pair of shorts and t-shirt, I emphasize)is irritating. <br /><br />Are you meaning to say that individualism is killing this society? Well, to begin with, it's a good step forward because the patriarchal 'society' that existed so long was only because of women shutting up even when they were mistreated and given no rights. So, when she gets up now and demands for the same, it seems like a meteor is hitting the Indian soil. <br /><br />It is stupid that you should objectify women in the first place. Breasts were not a 'private part' earlier, why should it be now? It is because of the improvised restrictions and the 'progression' of the society. I don't want nude people walking on the street. I just want people to be able to wear clothes that are deemed comfortable by themselves. <br /><br />To think that nudity is only accepted in front of one's own husband puts me off as many people are now involved in pre-marital sex. I don't think I am to judge for anyone's personal agenda. Mothers of today do not encourage daughters against men. That's a very false and idiotic claim if I may put it so. Women are being empowered while there is always a section of mothers who are still very conservative, only slowly opening to the current society via their children. I don't see anything wrong. <br /><br />Individualism is the most important thing in life. While I understand that you agree with the same reigning in men but women puts you under the questionable light of chauvinism, Sir. A marriage is not a deal where one swallows their own self-esteem for the sake of the other. May I suggest you read Ms.Ayn Rands' work? (though it may have its own loopholes) I find your logic highly disagreeable. <br /><br />Also, gay and lesbians are not criminals who need ostracizing or moral policing. It is their wish to choose their partners of whichever gender they love. I condemn your thoughts highly which says that they are a disgrace upon this society, which they are NOT. <br /><br />Glad to connect with you here. I hope you understand the message thus implied through this post. <br />Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-16717081695243901772013-07-08T20:48:57.004+05:302013-07-08T20:48:57.004+05:30Hem: I wud like to introduce myself as Neither a m...Hem: I wud like to introduce myself as Neither a misogyny nor Misandrist. just hater of wrongs. <br />I jus had time to read few stanzas .... But i had understood something wats there... <br />-- Both genders live in this world.. We were animals just lik lions to cats years and centuries back. And had no social sensitization.. Even before 300 centuries our women did not wear blouse and were top less. There were numerous men and women who fought to wear a top for women.<br /><br />But wen the men and women had started learning more and more, We donot know what for we get punishments, we do not knw what for we wear dress and all such.. The curse was the intervention of individualism for everybody's convenience.. People do not know how do they hurt others... But as usual they raise complaints once they are hurt... <br /><br />"We have rights to do anything without disturbing others or others intention. Being nude within four walls or with husband is unquestionable, thats pretty good".<br />Y do women think like men, in dressing without knowing whats equality. (He don wear tops then y should i??) Thats the stupidity. He hides his sexual part in such a way he chooses and women also should do it and thats equal and maturity of age. Following American's talk or culture had always been irritating. <br />I just think women are taught to be against man at all circumstances and don comply with any social responsibility by their moms.. May be u wud take individualism, it is much dangerous one. Just see the western nations it had been such an awkward. The individualism had lead men to men and women to women for marriage.Yuckk. And also I think such things had flourished after women fought against men in 1960s to have liberation which broke the family set up and encouraged individualism. And researchers had said that the individualism has been the evil behind break of family setup, divorce and poor children. <br /><br />So we should not be against each other under individualism. Should know the natural attraction and comply for the social health.SGW Dasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07809057555037009641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-6159671864765338122013-07-08T16:37:47.999+05:302013-07-08T16:37:47.999+05:30Exactly Clement. I hope we muster up our voice and...Exactly Clement. I hope we muster up our voice and ask for what is duly every person's right in this country.<br />Hemuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11922836316012264352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1052889176291399960.post-36016017975851640942013-07-08T12:00:19.507+05:302013-07-08T12:00:19.507+05:30This will never end. My sympathies are with you. T...This will never end. My sympathies are with you. The more we claim to advance the more we go back. Part of the problem is that fringe elements like the moral police are allowed to get away lightly by the general public.Vadapochehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223514549614553226noreply@blogger.com